A CUT FINGER
A cut finger is numb before it bleeds
it bleeds before it hurts
it hurts until it begins to heal
it forms a scab and itches
until finally, the scab is gone
and a small scar is left
where once there was a wound.
Grief is the deepest wound
you ever had.
Like a cut finger
it goes through stages
and leaves a scar.~~ Author Unknown ~~
If I cry and get emotional when you talk about my loss, I wish you knew that it isn't because you have hurt me. You have allowed me to share my grief and I appreciate that.
I don't want to have a "pity party," but I do need to grieve. I must hurt before I can heal.
I wish you knew that all of the grief reactions I'm having are very normal. Depression, anger, hopelessness and overwhelming sadness are all to be expected. And know also that this too shall pass.
You may wish that you understood my loss and my grief, my silence and my tears, my void and my pain. But I hope that you will never understand.